Letter to the Editor: Sexually fruitful relationships need not lead to divorce-ridden marriages
To the Editor,
I am appalled by the uxorial hubris exhibited in the article ‘Replacing communication with sex prepares us for divorce!’! I’m surprised by the sophomoric claims made by last week’s guest columnist.
In my albeit not far-reaching experience, the phenomenon described by the precocious Mr. Gavin is more commonly known as sex blindness. Sex blindness is an affliction befalling many young couples: the sex is so fun (and frequent!) that you are willing to overlook giant, gaping character flaws to maintain your sexual satisfaction. This oft characterizes the “honeymoon phase” of a given relationship. This phenomenon will eventually fade; one morning you’ll wake up and realize that you’ve been sleeping with someone who doesn’t share anything meaningful with you.
I’ve never once begun an argument with someone and then thought to myself, “this communication is so pesky; let’s just bang this one out.” That might be cause for concern. The replacement of emotional intimacy with physical intimacy might be a problem in young relationships, but I would hardly say that mature and fruitful relationships are plagued by the same affliction. Unless you’re eloping during the throes of sex-blindness (which generally lasts about as long as a carton of milk), I don’t see how the aforementioned honeymoon phase could infiltrate a marriage!
To say that these tendencies are a major cause of American divorce is even more absurd: placing college relationships on par with those in which people have chosen to enter a lifelong union with one another is preposterous. The call for an examination of the perception of intimacy on college campuses is warranted, but I may suggest that this logic need not be applied to the greater population.
Class of ’12